Relationships: 10 Signs Of a Possesive Boyfriend

Last week we talked about types of girlfriends guys should avoid, well this week we’re doing something for the ladies

It’s not easy to clearly see the signs that differentiate a good boyfriend from a possessive one. After all a bit of possessiveness is acceptable in every relationship, especially when you feel insecure.

Possessive boyfriends are like a leash around your neck. Every time you give their grip only gets tighter and their expectations from you only grows bigger

So here’s a list of 10 signs to look out for if you’re dating a possessive and jealous guy.

1.   Decision making. He constantly wants to play a part in any decision you take and he just can’t seem to accept it if you choose to do something he disapproves of even after you’ve tried to make him see things from your own point of view.

2.   Stalking. He tries to find out where you are often when you’re out with a friend by calling you up out of the blue and telling you he wants to see you or that he wants to come pick you up.

3.   Overly protective. It’s good when partner’s lookout for each other in a relationship but when it’s done over the top it’s a sign of possessiveness. He’s extremely protective about you and behaves like your life is in danger and sulks whenever you do anything new without him.

4.   Inquisitive. He’s extremely inquisitive about everything that goes on in your life. And if you don’t talk about something you consider too trivial to talk about he gets angry or sulks until you tell him all the details, all the time.

5.   Control freak. He doesn’t like it if you meet a friend or go out anywhere without telling him about it first, even if he isn’t around. It starts small until you find yourself asking him for permission for every single thing to do.

6.   Compliments. He doesn’t like it when you speak highly of someone else. Every time you say something nice about someone a friend or family member, he immediately tries to point out their flaws. He’s extremely competitive and wants you to believe that he’s the only one you should ever look up to or seek help from.

7.   He tags along. He’s extremely insecure however hard you try to make him feel loved. He doesn’t like it when you go out to meet your friends by yourself, and always insists on tagging himself along, especially if there are a few guys in your group of friends.

8.   His world revolves around you. He behaves like his entire life revolves around you and he forces you to give him preferential attention over everyone else in your life.

9.   He hates space. The idea of giving each other space agitates him. He wants to be part of everything you do, and yet he may whine and nag about something you enjoy doing and give it all up until you do things that makes him happy.

10. Your friends are flawed. He ridicules all your friends, especially your guy friends and constantly picks their flaws. Each time they let you down and he takes it upon himself to emphasize just how unreliable your friends are how he’s the only one you can completely trust and rely on.

If you see a handful of these signs in a lover sit him down and point it out to him, especially if you feel controlled in the relationship.

Remember, not all these signs or traits in a guy are bad or dangerous in a relationship. But there’s a thin line between tolerable behavior and extreme possessiveness, and that threshold is different for all of us. Some girls may love their own independence, while others may love depending on a guy for all on their needs. We’re all different and have our own expectations but these signs of jealousy and possessiveness needs to be addressed in a relationship.

Have a nice weekend…..